I crave deeper bonds, deeper connections; where people can truly be themselves and can have discussions without offending nor imposing their views upon others. Where free spirited beings would gather without being afraid of who they are, what they think, what they look like. I learned in my early twenties to discard of and curb any non-beneficial or non-educative interaction. That is why I hate going to night clubs where the impression of the same old pretentious and surreal crowd suffocates me. I am fond of small group hangouts, where real people and at least enjoyable acquaintances can contribute to an unforgettable evening.
Well, last night I was disappointed. I was invited for supper at a friend’s apartment. And as it turns out I didn’t enjoy it. Usually, I leave those gatherings with a big smile and a sense of fulfillment and recharged for the work week ahead. Last night apparently, I did not. It was awkward. I totally felt the pain of Alessia Cara in her song Here at that dinner.
The attendees were a bit tense around dessert and tea portion of the feast; between the right-wing nationalist and the free spirited, everyone seemed to want to impose their views. This violation of freedom irritated me a for bit. We were ten people reflecting on our society now. A society where individuality and competition are praised; but very hypocritical on how the other isn’t allowed a voice if it’s not one’s way of thinking. A society where everyone thinks they are right. A society where if you don’t agree with me, you are my enemy. A society of conformists and sycophants.
I believe that this kind of outlet still exists; a place where exchanges, and boring conversations that help us all to unwind from a stressful work week can be pleasant. A place where freedom of speech and opinions of others are respected. Where we can talk about art, culture, travel, fashion and food without offending anybody. A place where you can learn to accept each other and grow. A cluster of thinkers, artists and free spirits. Somewhere we can all gather to celebrate life; eat the best cheeses, drink the best wine, sip on the best whiskey, eat fresh fruits and drink the best champagne, taste the best food, and simply enjoy each other’s company and the time being. I might depict a dreamy salon scene and sound decadent but what else is life when it’s deprived of these moments.
I refuse to acknowledge the impression that the world has been reduced to this foggy mirror of conceit, selfishness, arrogance and intolerance which is reflected nowadays in our society; thus, resulting in this one pleasant gathering to be at the breach of canceled friendship subscriptions. It’s was simply not my scene.
By: Marie Caroline Charles
How can you be Preppy and trendy at the same time? One once asked me.
Preppy Trendy holds the purpose of bringing out the power of individuality. The power and the strength that lie within you by creating outfits that are both elegant and edgy. We see women adopting male characteristics to feel respected; I often do it because I love the androgynous look; but it’s as though we had forgotten that our power lies in our femininity and we must embrace it. Women have a balance and stability that is reinforced by their sudden burst of emotion, and there should be no shame in these bursts because they’re the expression of who we are. When we contain our thoughts and our feelings we contain who we are, and we become bland in the eyes of those who matter. Even if image becomes more and more important in our technology filled lives, the amount of care placed in our attire has diminished. It’s time to unveil our unique personalities and time to use clothing in the same way an artist would use paints and brushes: to express.
knowing who you are.
A research published in Psychological science conducted by psychologists at Royal Holloway University shows that we are more likely to trust someone if they physically look like us. Shocker. Do we, really? How many times do we subconsciously judge the people around us when they act in ways unfamiliar to us? I’d conclude. They have more winkles then I do, that means they’re older; they have five kids, I don’t know how they do it, they must be exhausted. They’re drinking an organic smoothie, they’re so healthy. It’s automatic. Our innate deductive reasoning has created these universal stereotypes that ruin us all. Our purchases, our actions, our education… it all brings people to draw a conclusion on so many pseudo-facts about our lives. Something as simple as a brand name can create an image of a person that will be so close yet so far from reality. Fashion isn’t conventional therefore you can be both preppy and trendy.
By: Marie Caroline Charles